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Let Go of Expectations and Be You

April 24, 2023

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Can you let go of expectations and be you? As women, we are constantly bombarded with messages about who we should be, what we should look like, and how we should act. We often find ourselves caught up in the expectations and standards set by society. From a young age, we are taught to behave and present ourselves in a certain way. This leads us to create an idea of who we should be. We continually strive to be the perfect daughter, friend, spouse, mother, and career woman.

However, as we settle into mid-life, we begin to realize that this persona is not who we are truly meant to be. It’s exhausting trying to keep up with all of those expectations. It often leaves us feeling like we’re failing if we don’t measure up.

What if we let go of all of these shoulds and we embraced who we are? What if we decided to create the future self we truly want to be?

In this blog post, I will talk about why it’s essential to let go of who you think you should be, embrace who you are, and decide who you want to become.

Shedding Societal Expectations

Our society has a very narrow view of what it means to be a successful woman. We are expected to look a certain way, have a particular career, and fulfill certain roles. Constantly striving to meet these expectations can leave us feeling lost and unfulfilled. The first step towards embracing our authentic selves is to let go of these societal expectations. This can be difficult, but it’s crucial to allow yourself to break free from these definitions and standards. As you shed these expectations, you will discover a sense of liberation that will lead you towards your true self.

Release Your Shoulds

One of the first steps in letting go of who you think you should be is to release all of the shoulds you’ve internalized over the years. These shoulds come from all sorts of sources – family, friends, social media, and society at large. Take some time to reflect on what shoulds you’re holding onto. Ask yourself if they truly align with your values and desires. If they don’t, let them go. It’s freeing to give yourself permission to be who you are. Release the pressure to conform to someone else’s vision for your life.

Recognizing and Embracing Your Unique Qualities

Every woman has a unique set of qualities, talents, and strengths that sets her apart from others. Embracing these unique traits is key to embracing your authentic self. Take the time to identify your strengths, weaknesses, passions, and values. Dig into your personal history and discover what shaped you into who you are today. Once you recognize and embrace these unique qualities, you will begin to see yourself in a new light. You will discover parts of yourself you never knew existed.

Solitude and Self Discovery: Solitude is one of the most effective ways to gain insight into your true self. When you spend time alone, you can connect with your inner self, understand your thoughts and feelings, and gain clarity. By taking the time to connect with yourself, you will be able to discover what makes you happy. You can reflect on what you want in life. Spend time journaling, meditating, or doing activities that bring you joy. Discovering your authentic self requires a deep understanding of your innermost desires. This can only come from taking quiet moments to introspect.

Connect with Yourself

In order to create the future self you truly want to be, you need to have a clear understanding of who you are. This means taking the time to connect with your inner self. You will need to get in touch with your values, passions, and desires. Consider journaling, meditating, or simply spending time alone in nature to reconnect with yourself. The more you understand and embrace who you are, the easier it will be to create the future you want.

Define Your Vision – Once you’ve connected with your true self, it’s time to define your vision for the future. What do you truly want out of life? What kind of person do you want to be and what impact do you want to make in the world? Write down your vision in detail, and make it specific and actionable. Then, break it down into smaller, achievable goals that you can work towards on a daily or weekly basis. Having a clear vision gives you direction and purpose. It helps you make decisions that align with your values and desires.

Take Action

Finally, it’s time to take action to create the future self you want to be. This may mean making some changes in your life, such as pursuing a new career or ending a toxic relationship. It may also mean taking small, daily actions that align with your vision. This can be something such as practicing self-care or learning a new skill. The most important thing is to start taking action, even if it’s just one small step at a time. Over time, these small steps will add up to big changes. You’ll be amazed at how much you can create for yourself.

Deciding Who You Want to Become

Now that you have let go of societal expectations, recognized your unique qualities, connected with your inner self, and embraced your flaws, it’s time to decide who you want to become. This journey of self-discovery is not about finding the answers, but rather it’s about asking yourself the right questions. Ask yourself what you want in life, what you want to achieve, and what legacy you want to leave behind. Once you have a clear vision of who you want to become, you can start taking steps towards that direction.

Embracing your authentic self is a journey that requires patience, dedication, and self-awareness. It’s about letting go of who society tells you to be and embracing who you genuinely are. By releasing societal expectations, recognizing your unique qualities, spending time in solitude, and deciding who you want to become, you will take the first steps towards creating a life that resonates with the real you.

It’s never too late to embark on this path of self-discovery. The journey towards embracing your authentic self is worth the effort and is a powerful act of self-love and empowerment. You have the power to create your future self, so dream big and take action towards your goals.

You deserve to live a life that brings you joy and fulfilment. By letting go of the shoulds and embracing who you are, you’re one step closer to making that a reality.

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