In case you need to hear this today, you are good enough. Trust me.
One of the things that I’ve been I’ve been struck by as I went through coach certification, coached women and heard others coached in group sessions and worked with other coaches, is how we all seem to think that we are not good enough, that we’re doing it wrong, that we need to be better.
I’m here to tell you to stop it.
Your brain will send you these messages – everyone’s brain is pretty much the same and will generate the same thoughts that will cause us to feel doubt, shame, embarrassment, fear.
All this means is that you are a human with a human brain. Nothing has gone wrong. This is how our primitive brain works. It is trying to keep us safe. It is trying to prevent change. That’s its job.
The good news is that we also have our prefrontal cortex, which can override our primitive brain, and gives us the ability to think about what we think about.
Furthermore, we have the ability to consciously choose our thoughts, which is amazing because that is how we can create the results we want in our life. Our thoughts will generate a feeling in us, which in turn will drive our actions, thereby creating our results.
If you’re thinking thoughts such as I’m not good enough, how does that make you feel? Maybe sad, scared, anxious? What kind of action are you taking when you feel anxious? How are you showing up? Are you showing up as the best version of yourself? Nope.
But if you choose a different thought than “I’m not good enough”, a better feeling thought like “I’ve come so far” or “I’m continuing to learn a little bit each day”, how does that make you feel? Maybe inspired, courageous, brave? Then what will you do and how will you show up? Play with the thoughts and find ones that work for you. Practice thinking them. Write them down. Put them on Post-It notes so you’ll see them every day.
Your opinion of yourself is important. Don’t give the negative thoughts a lot of air time. Know that they will come. Know that everyone experiences them. It’s OK.
The important thing is how you respond to them and how you deliberately develop that relationship with yourself so that you have the courage to live the life you want because the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself.
It takes effort. It takes time and patience, but it is possible and it’s so worth it.
You don’t need to be fixed.
You are 100% worthy right now.
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